Ah, a little coffee date. That casual beginning to any long-term relationship. It is a great way to get to know someone in a laid-back public setting. So, it is vital to make a good impression. While a coffee date means nothing right now, it might become the beginning of your relationship. Here are 5 ways to get the most of your little coffee date.
1. Location is the key
Choosing a coffee shop for your coffee date is as important as choosing a restaurant for a romantic dinner. Pick a place that you are familiar with and comfortable in. The more relaxed you feel in a place you know, the better the date will go. If you are the first to arrive, the big decision is where you are going to sit.
In movies and on television, you often see characters seated near the windows. However, this may not be the best option for conversation. If you plan on truly speaking to this person, try to aim for a table (or cozy booth) near the back or in the corner, where you are less likely to be interrupted.
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2. Timing is everything
Do not pick a time of day when you know a coffee shop will be packed. Time your date so that it will be in-between the rushes. As I mentioned before, you do not want to be interrupted. Also, make sure that no matter how short the time frame for the date (generally half an hour is the idea), both of you have free time afterwards so that it can be extended if wanted. Who knows, maybe your date will want to go for a long walk with you?
3. Eat less
The most important thing about your little coffee date is conversation. One way to put awkward lulls in that conversation is to have too much food in front of you. Most coffee shops also sell cookies and pastries, which can be quite delicious. However, it is called a coffee date for a reason. Save the eating for the dinner date. I’m not saying that you should make it look like you do not eat anything – when all you have in front of you is a drink, it becomes easier to talk.
When you are getting to know someone while also eating a cookie, crumbs get everywhere, chances are that you will talk with your mouth open once or twice (we all slip up from time to time), and there is also the underlying quiet fear that you could start to choke. It is best to avoid these possibilities altogether.
4. Keep them talking
This is the date where you learn whether you want to spend more time with this person or not. Take this chance to ask them questions – anything about their hobbies, interests, what they studied, etc. Think of the basic level of being friends with someone, and reach that level without overstepping it. No one wants to be interrogated over their cappuccino. And remember to let them ask questions as well – this is a two-way street, after all.
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5. Have fun
And finally, relax. If things go right, you have started a new and beautiful relationship with another person. If things do not go well as hoped, at least you got some coffee. The coffee date does not set anything in stone, but it can be a foundation for a firmer building later on. Above all, remember to be yourself. People will like you best when you are the genuine you.
Little coffee date is a fantastic opportunity to say goodbye to your loneliness or at least to have your favorite cup of coffee with someone you like. Take advantage of it and maybe you will have a romantic dinner next time. Happy dating!