7 Goals Every Independent Lady Should Reach
There are many things women should accomplish. We often set wrong goals and spend too much time achieving them, thus end up being unsuccessful and unhappy. Handling things on your own is an important skill that you need to master in life. The majority of people tend to believe that a strong, independent woman is a lonely woman, but in fact, most independent women have husbands and kids and they are absolutely happy.
In order to survive in this modern world, you should learn how to support yourself and be independent. When you are in a relationship, it’s tempting to put your happiness in your partner’s hands, thinking it’ll bring you fulfillment. It won’t. You don’t want to become a burden to your partner and you don’t want to always feel dependent on him, so here are 7 goals you should set and reach in the nearest future.
1. Find your dream job
There’s nothing worse than staying in a job you hate, so finding a dream job should be your top goal. When you do what you love, you work harder and make more money. On this matter, I really like this inspiring quote by Steve Jobs, “The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.”
2. Find your love
As I mentioned above, an independent woman doesn’t necessarily have to be lonely. Don’t stop dating and trying to start a family. Although most guys are afraid of strong, independent women, one day you will certainly find your love, as some men still love strong women. Stay strong and don’t let the fear of rejection prevent you from building a happy relationship.
3. Support yourself financially
You don’t have to earn a lot of money to support yourself financially. But you do have to make some cash in order to become more independent. Many women stay in abusive relationships because they need money to raise their children and buy the most essential things. It’s okay when your boyfriend or husband makes a lot of money, but you should set your own career goals and achieve them no matter what he says to you. Today he may tell you that you don’t need to work at all, and tomorrow he may tell you that you are a burden to him. This is the sad truth of life, ladies. If you already have a job you love, don’t give all of your money to your partner. This way, you won’t feel independent. Your money should be in your wallet, keep it in mind.
4. Travel alone
Traveling solo is a great experience – be it a short road trip or a round the world tour. When you travel alone, you have more opportunity to see the world and notice the smallest details of the destination, not to mention you meet many interesting people and make a lot of friends. On the contrary, when traveling with your significant other or friends, you may ignore locals and other travelers and skip many interesting things. The main thing to remember when you travel solo is safety, of course.
5. Buy your own house
Having your own living space will boost your confidence and independence, and you won’t have to worry that your husband will turn you out of the house. It may seem impossible to buy a house, especially now when you are in your 20s, but if you work hard toward this goal, you will definitely achieve it in your 30s. If you are in a relationship and you are planning to buy a house together, it’s great. When you are going to live in your partner’s apartment, though, consider buying your own too.
6. Learn how to defend yourself
Well, a real lady don’t fight, but there are certain situation where you may need to defend yourself. Whether it’s a robber or an abusive husband, knowing some self-defense moves may help you save your life. Consider taking a kickboxing class or a self-defense course.
7. Become a role model
My friend once asked me how I managed to become an independent woman and my answer was something like this, “Jess, I had a good role model who inspired and taught me to be a successful, independent woman.” My grandma was my role model, and now I’m trying to become the best role model for my child.
It’s important for a woman with no will-power to have at least one role model in her life. It can be her mom, her granny, her older sibling or even her boss. When you are a strong, independent woman, others may follow your example. Being a role model is a huge responsibility, but you will like it, if you are open-hearted, kind and friendly.
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What are your goals, all the independent ladies out there? I’m sure, there are many other goals that independent women are trying to achieve so the list may be endless. Set your goals, stay strong and assertive, believe in yourself and enjoy your happy life to the fullest!