7 Words to Remove from Your Vocabulary for Good
Recently, I had a curious conversation with a psychologist and she told me that many phrases used by people every day had either positive or negative influence on their subconscious minds and personalities. Step by step, at first, glance, harmless, but systematically repeated words often give birth to insecurities and psychological disorders.
I have analyzed the speeches of many highly successful people and came to a conclusion that they did not use the words described below. Try to eliminate the following words from your vocabulary and life.
It is normal to use ‘I’ when talking about yourself and your life. If you do not cross the line, this word does not make you more self-congratulatory and narcissistic, but on the contrary helps you feel comfortable and confident.
But when discussing common things with the interlocutor or entering into an argument, then it is desirable to use ‘we’ more often than ‘I.’ The word ‘we’ imputes the responsibility for the situation or theme under consideration on both you and your interlocutor. It means that other people will find it difficult to wriggle out and blame everything on you.
This wonderful word brings hope that the next day will change everything for the better. It is great to live with hope in your heart, but sometimes it is best to look at this world through the prism of realism.
The dark side of saying ‘tomorrow’ is that it tempts you to lose valuable opportunities and procrastinate everything you can do today. Life is too short. Live, develop, love and reach your goals today, instead of doing nothing and just thinking that you will become successful, healthy and rich tomorrow.
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We live in the world where everyone is free to live their life as they want. Almost all people do not like the word ‘must,’ because it often obliges them to do things against their will. You are not a Penal Code or constitution to oblige the others to satisfy your personal needs and do something for the sake of your prosperity, happiness and success. You should realize that both your relatives and other people will never live up to your expectations.
4. I don’t know
Millions of people hate it when the interlocutor says ‘I don’t know’ all the time. This phrase is often used by diffident victims, who are always afraid of taking responsibility for their answers, statements and pieces of advice. Emotionally strong personalities usually either provide a clear answer or offer suggestions. Such confident step significantly simplifies cooperation between people. Remember that it is extremely difficult to communicate and deal with the ones who do not know anything.
It is impossible to change the situation only when you realize that you are already falling down from the skyscraper. If you have two legs, two arms and a head, you have all chances to move the situation off dead center, surmount all barriers and reach a desirable result, no matter how complicated the problem can be. When you say ‘It is impossible’ you show everyone that you give up even without making an effort to change something and find your place under the sun.
This word is often used by skillful manipulators who prefer to consider only their personal interests. If it is your favorite word, then you should forget about it for the sake of your reputation. You do not want to lose opportunities, but when you say ‘maybe,’ you give the interlocutor false hopes. Responsible people do not like it when someone starts giving them the runaround and leading them around by the nose, especially when it comes about important projects.
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7. No problem
Many kind-hearted people give preference to this phrase when they reply to someone’s ‘thank you.’ While it is okay to be kind and positive, unfortunately this challenging world is full of impudent people who take advantage of others’ good nature.
Next time you give somebody a helping hand and hear ‘thank you,’ just say ‘you are welcome’ instead of ‘no problem’ or ‘no worries.’ When you help somebody, you spend your life energy and time. It will help the interlocutor’s subconscious mind understand that you are not a victim or philanthropist.
I have already waved goodbye to these words and noticed many positive changes in my personality and life. What other words have a detrimental effect on us?